The Caramen Crunch (21 March 2020)

Over at Caramel (Learner at Love), CARAMEL has started a new prompt. I’d like to see her prompt do well, and I had some time today to write a post, so here we go…

The prompts are called the Caramel Crunch and so far are centered around a moral question. For your convenience I shall repeat her question.

Your best friend (or someone you are dating) has surprised you by buying tickets to a live entertainment show. As the show starts, you become uncomfortable because you find the entertainment offensive. However, the person who paid for your tickets is clearly enjoying the entertainment a great deal. You decide to wait and see of the tone of the entertainment changes, but it only becomes more and more offensive to you. You friend just seems to be smiling and laughing more and more. What do you do?

Okay, I think the key phrase here is as the show starts.

If you knew you in advance that you were likely not going to enjoy the show, you should have backed out then.

If you wait until the performance starts, then decide, I think you’re probably just going to have to suck it up.

Maybe make a mental note not to go out to “entertainment” with that friend again? If it’s a date, then liking different things sounds quite incompatible to me, whatever attraction there might be.

I’ve been vaguely in this situation myself quite recently. About a year ago, against my better judgement, I agreed to go out to lunch with somebody. I ended up both not enjoying the lunch, and being unable to do the other tasks I had planned for that afternoon because the lunch took so long.

What could I do? I was 10 miles freom home and did not have any transport, so the difference between my situation and this is that I couldn’t really do anything except suck it up.

I think these experiences can happen, but I think we have to learn from them and make sure they never happen twice.

Lots of crunching today šŸ˜ƒ


  1. These experiences do happen (although it looks as if none us will face this challenge for the foreseeable future!)
    It happened to me when gorgeous Goldfinch took me to a comedy club. I was desperate to escape. But he was loving it. We were sat close to the stage and the seated audience was so tightly packed together, I would have had to first of all have climbed over the row of people in front and on to the stage. I would then have had to walk over people, perhaps over their heads/shoulders (like that scene at the subway with Crocodile Dundee making his way towards the American reporter).
    I did not like the show at all. But the rest of the audience did. It was dreadful.

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    • I can imagine it would make me think twice about a partner, though. You know, if it was something floated their boat but not mine. I remember once, when I was a student, going out to the cinema where she clearly did not enjoy the experience, but I think that was me not the film, so she couldn’t really claim to be offended. We never went out again, which was a shame because I really liked her and it took me ages to get the couragetogether to ask her out. There were a few girls I liked but never asked out. Thirty years later, I wish I’d had the courage to do so, even if it meant getting blown out. In my twenties I was a bit more self-confident. I went on several duff-dates but I don’t think anybody was ever offended, we just didn’t click.


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