I posted a piece of flash yesterday, a suicide, and it sparked a thought. Hadn’t I written about this before? So last night’s post prompted a hunt. It was called Wasted Potential. It sat in Drafts for months, because it was on such a sensitive subject, I wanted the wording just so. When I finally published, it was immediately misinterpreted. I was incredulous but I saw the lack of clarity when I reread it this morning.
The subject I had wanted to discuss was suicide, but I was a noob, I wanted to explain my back-story, a big part of which is my daughter. I conflated the two. The original post was so bad, I thought I should rewrite it. So, here goes:
Many of the issues we had with daughter growing up weren’t relevant, but one thing that was was that, aged thirteen, her classmate hanged herself.
There are various scenarios where I think suicide is a reasonable option. A terminal illness, or even persistent mental torment. Stop the train I want to get off.
However, I didn’t (don’t) think that thirteen was anywhere near old enough to make a sound judgement. This girl never even gave herself a chance. Try living some: relationships, marriage, divorce, children, then if you decide to go, fair enough. But not at thirteen. I remember just how screwed-up I was, back then.
For other people, though, I not only thought/think that it might be a rational choice, but that if somebody has made that decision, it seems cruel of society to try to stop them. This also ties in with one of the original comments, “a permanent fix to a temporary problem”. That’s a cliché and we need to give people credit. Nobody takes suicide lightly, and it is more of “a permanent fix to a permanent problem”. What right has our view to take precedence over theirs?
A while ago now, one of my friends posted about suicide – she specifically highlighted male suicide. It was a very objective accont, facts and figures. In addition, the TV News a few days ago presented an article about veterans’ suicides, so I thought it might be useful to publish my own experiences. Truth be … Continue reading “Wasted Potential”