Thicker Than Water?

Every week, I enjoy reading people’s responses to Melanie’s Share Your World prompts, though I usually don’t have time to respond myself.

I thought she asked an excellent question yesterday, though, and especially in the context of the answers I read so far (everyone thinks the opposite to me), I thought the question was irresistable.

Melanie asked:

What’s more important to you – family or friends?

I broadly see good people and bad people. Broadly. A good person is somebody whose outlook on life coincides with my own. The same kinds of values. Again, broadly, because I never met anyone whose values coincide exactly with mine. That “good person” might well go on to become a friend. A bad person, I will walk away from, because life is too short to be mixed up with them.

Whether those good and bad people happen to be related to me or not, doesn’t really come into it.

So, for me, friends win out, every time. No contest.

Now, note that I’m not saying here that family are necessarily unimportant. I’m saying that the important members of my family (which is a small subset of the entire family), I also consider to be friends, first and foremost. I don’t see somebody as either one or the other. My wife, for example, I see as also a friend (sometimes 🤣).

Conversely, an asshole is an asshole is an asshole, and I will drop them, family or not.

Author: Mister Bump UK

Designed/developed large IT systems, interrupted by a stroke in 2016, aged 48. Now mix development of health-related software with voluntary work and writing. Married, with an estranged daughter.

18 thoughts on “Thicker Than Water?”

    1. That, I feel, is the big conundrum for people who say “family”.
      What do you do when Relative X is an asshole? Do you still mix with them, because they are family?
      I’m not knocking that situation, because many people do just that. But not for me.

      Liked by 2 people

        1. Yes I have family too, where it is cordial rather than friendly. Over the years I have pretty much cut them out altogether. It has become easier as I got older. Living remotely helped, too. Moving a long way from the rest of the family. Those I stay in touch with are the ones I value.

          Liked by 1 person

  1. I would always put family first mainly because they are my rock.  I’ve moved enough that good friends are scattered especially now, interaction is not frequent.

    Sent from Yahoo Mail for iPad

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Thanks for Sharing Your World about relationships. 🙂 I take it from your response that most of the folks whose SYW this week you have read, have said “family” over friends? It’s true that some people do value their family above anyone else, but some of us don’t. Our friends ARE our family, because our own family have turned out to be disappointing in some way or downright unlikeable. As you put it “an asshole is an asshole is an asshole.” It doesn’t matter if they’re related to one or not, the stench overrides. Thanks again Pete for chiming in! 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

        1. Thanks. I remember Jilly from when I used to do SLS. I don’t think the two are identical, though, just, as I say, because I have dropped some family members like a stone.
          It really is as simple as “genes don’t come into it”.


Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: