The Caramel Crunch (7 March 2020)

Over at Caramel (Learner at Love), CARAMEL has started a new prompt. I’d like to see her prompt do well, and I had some time today to write a post, so here we go…

The prompts are called the Caramel Crunch and so far are centered around a moral question. For your convenience I shall repeat her question.

You have fallen in love after courting someone who seems like everything you have ever hoped for in a partner. They want to marry you. However, one of you has a desire to start a family after the wedding, the other has no desire at all and as quite adamant that they do not want to have children. What do you do?

An easy one this week. No ifs, no buts, finish it. 100%.

If you don’t, here’s how it will play out:

If you do have children, one partner will end up blaming the other for taking away their freedom, for clipping their wings, and making them rear a child. It might take years, but the resentment will just build and build.

If you don’t have children, one partner will eventually blame the other for not giving them the offspring they always wanted. And don’t forget, there is a limited window when you are going to have children – all of us). So, it might take until right to the end of this window, but the resentment will just build and build.

Some further observations:

Bringing up children as a couple is immensely hard work.

Bringing up children as a singleton is even harder. But, miraculously, some people are up to it.

Trying to get by with somebody, without children, when you actually want them, will eventually force you to look for somebody else, who will give you children.

Not me, but personal experience, I watched this happen.

Did I say 100%? Misprint. 1000%. If you’re gonna do this, stack the odds as much in your favour as you can. Even if you do, it is still bloody difficult, but the very least you can do is to find a partner who wants the same things as you.